Taking my self back from Facebook
But in the meantime just this:
(1) Use Facebook as a reminder to not use Facebook. I use Facebook every day… Too much really. How to cut down? Put reminders in places to remind myself that I want to cut down. Where to put those reminders? Somewhere I look on regular basis… bingo! Put reminders on Facebook to cut down on my Facebook usage. Simples.
(2) Instead of going to Facebook to add content, I now go on Facebook and look for content I can bear to delete. Facebook don’t actually really ever delete anything that ever gets posted by anyone, so the content is not “really gone”, but every time I delete something I feel a small victory, and it is starting to become a habit, gradually reducing the number of tendrils that Facebook has running in to me. For example I check through the “Groups I manage” list and look for ones which are not current and I can delete. I start by removing all the members, then I delete all the posts, then if the system lets me I schedule the group for deletion (this takes 14 days), or if the system won’t let me delete the group, I “archive” it.
(3) I created a “secret”* Facebook group with the same name as my name, and added all the people on my friends list to it. Then instead of posting to my wall, I post to the secret group. And every time a friend left the secret group** I unfriended them on my friends list. This gave me a curious sense of empowerment, and a sense of freeing myself from Facebook addiction.
* “Secret” is one of three allowed privacy settings for a Facebook group.
** You can tell who has left from the iPad App besides any other way of checking — I’ll post a screen shot here when I get round to it.
(4) I’m thinking I will gradually unfriend everyone on my friends list, and any of them who allow followers, I will follow instead. And any people I want to have regular communications with I will create secret groups with 2 or X many people in. That way, the only posts coming up on my feed will be posts from groups I’m a member of, ie. things that I have a specific interest in that I have chosen to want to engage in. (Instead of an endless stream of distractions on endless topics that always look like they are going to be interesting… Some of them are interesting, but I still want to be choosing topics of interest for myself, rather than getting pulled around by Facebook’s algorithm.) Also this approach will eliminate all use of Facebook “messenger” from my life.